Children may not obey…

Careful the things you say

Children will listen

Careful the things you do

Children will see

And learn

Children may not obey

But children will listen

Children will look to you

For which way to turn

To learn what to be

Careful before you say

“Listen to me”

Children will listen

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I heard these lyrics live last night, in the touring production of Stephen Sondheim’s Into The Woods. They have many important messages for teachers, of course, and for parents and grandparents and everyone else responsible for children.

They tell us that children will learn from our example. We know this, of course, but it’s good to be reminded.

For me, however, the most important lines are “Children may not obey / But children will listen.” I can’t count the number of times I’ve said that a student doesn’t listen to me when what I really mean is that they don’t do as I tell them. But the truth is that, even when a kid is being a complete pain in the backside, they are listening, watching, learning from our example, and filing away the things that we tell them.

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  1. […] like they do, because they look bored or they roll their eyes or they don’t do what we say, but they do listen. And, because they listen, we can help them to regard themselves as products of their own decisions […]

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